YOUR COVENANT STORY

Why Now?

5/14/2025

About 11 years ago in late winter, we attended an entrepreneurial conference at Fall Creek Falls in Tennessee. This event was one of the tools God used to expand our horizon of everything we thought we knew about Him, about us, about our life’s trajectory. The speakers covered a variety of topics, and the crowd was filled with energetic, joyful people who were striving to shed the world’s fears and stigmas so they could genuinely pursue their unique and righteous callings. Everything about this was convicting.

One of the speakers said something about marriage that I’ll never forget. He said that often spouses are in pursuit of their own separate careers — one of the melodies of the American culture. As people build their own résumés, they either work to help their boss accomplish his or her goals or, as the boss, they have others working for them to help them accomplish theirs. In other words, spouses spend most of their good energy helping or receiving help from someone other than their spouse. Then, they come home at the end of the day exhausted, leaving their spouse (and family) with whatever energy is left. The majority of their life’s pursuit is done without their spouse, and we wonder why divorce is so prevalent, even for believers.

While this was a general statement, even if divorce isn’t the end result, it does have the potential to wear on marriages over time. If spouses don’t make a concerted effort to cultivate intimacy, their relationship will suffer to some degree. This is something I’ve wrestled with ever since that conference: If I intended to spend so much of my good time and energy away from my spouse, why did I get married in the first place?

So why now? Why the hiatus? Although we started Your Covenant Story back in 2017 and spent a couple years building its foundation, in 2020 God thought it necessary to take us on an adventure that seemed like a tangent. (But we know better.) I’ve spent the past five years receiving an on-the-job, small business education within the incredibly dynamic logistics industry, meanwhile being blessed with three vibrant children. Certainly, both contexts have matured us (and continue to) in ways we have yet to fully appreciate. That season is coming to a close and now we face an open canvas ahead - yet we strive to hold fast to God’s calling.

Storytelling is something we enjoy (sharing and receiving) and film provides an outlet that transcends content. But marriage, and the wedding in particular, are beautiful pictures – indeed, the ultimate one! – of God’s love. In fact, this divine institution was designed to serve as the primary metaphor throughout His story to help us understand His relationship with us. We received such an outpouring of love from others early on in our marriage, so we felt this venture offered a unique opportunity to use both our gifts and share that love with you.

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1/19/2019

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We are an imperfect couple loved by a perfect God. Marriage can be hard — very hard; however, it can also be a tremendous representation of Christ’s love for us. God created marriage to be a foreshadow of the relationship between Christ (the bridegroom) and His church (the bride). Throughout history the enemy has strived to ruin this sacred covenant between husband and wife and thus ruin the testimony it can offer by pointing to the ultimate marriage. We seek to fight against this, to do our part to change the direction.

The start of our dating relationship was full of sin, long distance and uncertainty. Don’t get us wrong, it was filled with fun, growth and love, too; but the love then is nothing like the love we share now. We began our marriage with a sick bride, challenging the groom from the very beginning to become not only a husband but a caretaker. The “in sickness and in health” and “for better or worse” applied much more quickly than we would have expected! He has assumed that role many times in the almost five years we’ve now been married. So, needless to say, our first few years of marriage were tough, as we’ve found to be true for most couples. This was evidence of the enemy’s attacks, and we have seen it so often. We experienced the death of a close relative, life-altering family news, close family divorce, continued physical and mental illness for the bride, challenges with intimacy, and financial struggles to name a few. The differences in how you squeeze the toothpaste or who owns the remote weren’t on our radar. The enemy used different and unexpected tactics on us.

These things tested our marriage. However, by God’s grace, He has used so much of what’s happened in our relationship to grow us closer than we would have gotten otherwise. We have a bond that is tried and true and if we can help other couples achieve the same through their struggles, we would be truly blessed.

Our desire for Your Covenant Story is that we can capture your unique story before the wedding, on your wedding day as you make your covenant, and possibly even after you’ve been married for a little while. We want to provide a platform for couples to share what God is doing or has already done — whether in hard times or blessed ones. Don’t worry, even if you don’t feel like you have a story, we'll do our best to learn more about your relationship and show you where one exists. We all have a story to tell, one that others need to hear.

God willing, we'll eventually have a means of equipping couples as they approach marriage. Many times the preparation for the wedding day can overshadow the preparation for the marriage itself. Your wedding day is, of course, an incredibly special day that should be celebrated, but there are many things to consider before entering marriage in order to prepare for a lifetime as husband and wife. We would love to provide you with some tools and resources that we either had or wished we’d had to better prepare us for this journey. We also plan to eventually create a support group for couples to encourage and mentor one another following their wedding.

We hope you'll give us the honor of being a part of the beginning of your covenant story.

– Ben & Rebecca

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